Ladies, this one is for you.
I'm going to get straight to the point on this one: Men. We all want our Prince Charming. I'm sure most of us have been in a relationship where we thought "He is THE ONE!" Only for it to come crumbling down months later to an ice cream, Pride and Prejudice movie and an "I didn't need him anyway!" kind of end. Is anyone relating?
Well, I'm going to approach this subject in the way I have experienced it. I will start with the bottom line first: A man will not make you happy. The day you make a man the center of your life is the day you set yourself up for disappointment. Not because of men but because a man cannot and should not fill God's place.
A man will not fix that hole you have; that emptiness you have where you think chocolates, dates, flowers, and gifts will make your problems go away. You just want to be wanted right? Let me stop and say those things can be part of a relationship, but if you're empty to start with, those things will not fill it. It is unrealistic and unfair to put that expectation on one person. You are already WANTED! More than you could ever know! You have to understand that, so you can understand your worth, and so you don't settle for less than you deserve. You my dear, are a treasure.
I want to take a moment and address women who have been or are in an abusive relationship, physically and or verbally, or are just not being treated right. You are NOT stuck, you are NOT trapped, you are NOT weak, it is NOT your fault, you have NO obligations to him, and you are NOT alone! Ladies, I don't care what you have said or what you have done, you do not deserve to be treated any less than the jewel you ARE. You may need healing, you may need to work on yourself, but you do NOT deserve to be mistreated.
God saved me. He didn't save me from a bad relationship, he saved me from myself. It was time for me to look in the mirror and ask myself, "What am I doing?" to what ends of destroying myself will I go in order to feel wanted? When ultimately, the one thing that can bring wholeness to your life is God. The one who wants you and loves you more than anyone else ever could... is God.
You want to be whole? You want to be loved? Seek God with all your heart. He knows what you want. Seek Him in everything and he will provide for you. Here are some things that I have said to myself that were lies, and the Bible says otherwise.
"I will be alone."
No, never will I leave you, never will I forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)
"I cannot be loved."
No, for God so loved the world, He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)
"I have to do this all by myself."
No, fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous hand. (Isaiah 41:10)
"It's God's plan for me to be unhappy."
No, for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)
"God looks at me in disgrace."
No, I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters… (2 Corinthians 6:18)
For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Thessalonians 5:9)
"I am not good enough."
No, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)
"God has forgotten about me."
No, he has more precious thoughts for you than all the grains in the sands in the world. (Psalm 139: 17-18)
"God made a mistake."
No, He knew you before the Earth began (Ephesians 1:4)
"This is too hard for you."
No, for you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! (Philippians 4:13)
